More Rantings

I have had several comments on my last post (none actually posted online though). Most of them told me that they liked it but were expecting a longer post. To be honest, the post was going to be quite a bit longer, but I kept getting distracted while writing it. By the time I really got into it, Senior Karaoke rolled around, so I decided to put it off and write up a second portion.

This is that second portion.

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My name is George White, and I am a nice guy. I say this not out of some conceited notion of knowing what does and does not constitute a nice guy, but I say this because I have been told this by innumerable people. I am the “nice guy”, the “good guy”, the “guy who is a great friend”, the guy women know “will always be there when they need a shoulder to cry on”, and (my personal favorite) the guy whose friendship is just “too close to ruin by dating”.

I am the kind of guy who loves being in a relationship because it gives me an excuse to do all the little things I love to do to make people feel better, but seem odd when done by someone you aren’t in a relationship with.

I am the kind of guy who will call in the morning just to say “Good Morning”. I am the guy who can’t help but smile when he sees his girlfriend, just because she is who she is. I am the guy who surprises his girlfriend with a rose for no reason other than to make her smile. I am the kind of guy who holds people when they are crying, not because I think I will get something out of it, but because I hate seeing people hurt. I am the kind of guy who people call when the rest of the world has let them down, just so they know that there is someone out there who still cares about them and smiles when he hears their voice. I’m the guy who listens when people talk, and tells them what they need to hear, not just what they want to hear. I’m the guy who accepts people for who they are and doesn’t try to force them into molds they don’t fit in. I am the guy who thinks a pair of sweatpants and a sweatshirt can be sexier than a mini-skirt and low-cut top. I am the guy who finds women beautiful when they are the way nature intended – not just when they are surgically altered and covered with makeup. I am the guy who knows that you can’t always get what/who you want. I am the guy who appreciates the women in my life for what they are, even if I want them to be more. I am the guy who doesn’t stare at attractive women while I am out with a woman. I am the guy who will tell someone she is beautiful, not because I am hitting on her, but because she is beautiful. I am the guy who will tell you the truth instead of lying to get into your pants. I am the guy who won’t get jealous when you talk to your male friends, because I know that you aren’t flirting with or hitting on every guy you talk to. I am the guy who doesn’t see put downs as the only way to have fun and look cool, although I may make the occasional put down myself in jest. I am the guy who can normally get the little hints and suggestions, even if I don’t immediately act on them. I am the guy who treats his girlfriend the same when I am with my friends as I do when we are alone. I am the guy who will be there for the people who matter to him, through thick and thin, good times and bad, and I will do everything in my power to make them happy and try not to hurt them.

I am not trying to say that I am perfect. Hell, I am far from perfect. I am overweight. I tend to be a procrastinator, and I am nice to the extent of sometimes being a pushover. I am an intellectual snob, a smarmy smart-ass, and overly hesitant when it comes to expressing my feelings (for good reason I think).

Over the past few days I have been trying to decide why, when so many women tell me that I am such a great guy and then turn around and tell me that I am not “boyfriend material”. Well, I had an idea that was later brought up by two different friends as I was writing this (thanks ladies). The reason I am not “boyfriend material” right now is because we are in college. I am the safe choice right now. I am the stable guy who won’t cheat on my girlfriend or do anything to hurt them. I’m not the crazy wild Adonis who makes women drool when they look at me. I am the shoulder women come crying to when the bad boy has broken their hearts. I was actually told tonight that the reason I am always relegated to the “Friend Zone” is because I am marriage material. She then pointed me in the direction of the movie “Wet Hot American Summer” for a good quote:

Listen, Coop. Last night was really great. You were incredibly romantic and heroic, no doubt about it. And that's great. But I've thought about it, and my thing is this. Andy is really hot. And don't get me wrong, you're cute too, but Andy is like, cut. From marble. He's gorgeous. He has this beautiful face and this incredible body, and I genuinely don't care that he's kinda lame. I don't even care that he cheats on me. And I like you more than I like Andy, Coop, but I'm 16. And maybe it'll be a different story when I'm ready to get married, but right now, I am entirely about sex. I just wanna get laid. I just wanna take him and grab him and fuck his brains out, ya know? So that's where my priorities are right now. Sex. Specifically with Andy and not with you.

Unfortunately that kind of behavior doesn’t end at 16. Far too many women in college still feel that way. Some of them smarten up early and stop going after the bad boys. Unfortunately, these wonderful women are few and far between at this point in life. Hopefully I will one day soon join the ranks of the lucky guys who have found their woman, but till then I will just be content being me.

Writing this post has made me think of a few quotes:

“Every woman needs one man in her life who is strong and responsible. Given this security, she can proceed to do what she really wants to do-fall in love with men who are weak and irresponsible.” – Richard J. Needham

“A true man does not need to romance a different girl every night, a true man romances the same girl for the rest of her life” – Ana Alas

“The most human thing we have to do in life is to learn to speak our honest convictions and feelings and live with the consequences. This is the first requirement of love, and it makes us vulnerable to other people who may ridicule us. But our vulnerability is the only thing we can give to other people.” – Leo F. Buscaglia

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'” – Anonymous